Anna Costello start with remembering yourself as a little girl. Then treat that little girl as if you cherished her, even if your emotions are mixed. That little girl absolutely deserved unconditional love and if she didn't get it then, it's your mission, if u chose to accept it, to love her. Love her innocent self...that's the first step
Start by asking yourself why you don't love yourself. Make a list, if there is one. Then, like a dream interpretation technique, (you know, with a sheet of paper next to the page of written why's) and consider each reason separately from the rest. Ask yourself if you can do anything to change the way you feel, and if you want to do it or not. If you don't want to love yourself, then accept yourself exactly as you are. It has been my experience that some people are happiest exactly the way they are. The major thing here is that you cannot compare yourself and the way you feel to anyone else's "Ideal" of right or wrong. They are not you. You are perfect exactly the way you are, as long as this makes you happy. If you are not happy, then it is up to you to figure out how to change that. Let's face it, mass murderer's are only happy if they are destroying something, lunatic's are only happy when they are harassing someone, control freaks are only happy when they are pushing other people's buttons, Pollyanna's are only happy if they are being martyr's. Counselor's are only happy with a medium or a podium, and so on. Your happy is an inside job, and it in no way resembles anyone one else's concept, simply because we are all unique. Happy Yule. Blessed Be.
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